It is official. I survived my first full year being on my own , after 12 years of having someone to wake up to, to do the yard work, to scratch my back , and share crappy frozen pizza with. In ways it has flown by. In certain moments, I wish they flew faster . But then again that is how a bird runs straight into a glass door….wasn’t concerned with living in the moment and what they were currently doing, they were more focused on where they wanted to be. And we all know how that bird turns out 🙂 .
So I have learned a few things this year living alone and having to be the man and the woman of the house. And how to juggle a full time job, a part time job, 2 dogs , being an owner of a townhome, all while being a full time mom and professional driver of the city of Atlanta. Here goes:
1- Invest in an unlimited data plan for your cell – yes I have to watch my money and I always skimped here. People it’s worth the $20 not to have to worry about if you have a wireless connection and Waze is at your fingertips for as long as you need it. And I mean, who doesn’t need to swipe right or left when they are stuck in traffic.
2- Cable is a waste- I mean really, does anyone watch series other than on Netflix? Plus you probably pass out each night before your show even starts if you are on Eastern Standard Time.
3- Always have quarters in your car for air- And LEARN HOW to use a tire pressure gauge. Yes, I had to learn the hard way as I was actually deflating my tire when I was attempting to put air in them for the first time. Thank you YouTube for showing me that I have to squeeze the trigger 🙂
4- Prep or die- if you don’t want to eat Uncrustables each night( dang they are delicious though) or your kid to live off Wendy’s, gotta food prep. Yes, I look like an octopus in the kitchen on Sunday night prepping dinners, omelets for snack and veggies for lunches…but it takes the stress out of worrying about it at 6:15 each night when your child becomes Lucifer because he is ready to eat.
5- Yard work is for the birds- if you have the money to pay someone to cut your grass, DO IT. But if you don’t as I don’t, place your kid in a wagon with his dinner and have him cheer you on if you actually mow in a straight line( as I do not). Just get it done- you don’t live on a golf course.
6- Never underestimate the strength of a toddler- yes, I have had to literally sit on my child with his arms pinned under my legs and my forearm under his chin to wipe his face. I have also been sucker punched straight in the mouth and almost had to get stitches. Luckily I just got a jacked up inner lip instead. No one can see it so who cares.
7- Dating today is about as painful as a splinter on your ass- guys , MOST guys today, forget women are human beings and have feelings. If they don’t show their teeth in their photos, there is a reason. A single mom who is a Christian eliminates about 98% of the pool out there . Everyone is “spiritual but not religious”( what does that even mean?)
8- Drive defensively ALWAYS in Atlanta- I have been saved by God’s angels probably fifteen times this year. Let’s all repeat please ” If the light is blinking yellow, it means use caution, if it’s blinking red that means STOP and if the traffic light is not working its a 4 way stop”. Oh and using your blinker here is an automatic guarantee you are not merging by way of someone letting you in. Don’t ask permission people, ask forgiveness and wave afterwards.
9- Women can do everything a man can do- as long as you have a step ladder , a power drill, a self propelled lawn mower, and fix a flat for your car. And if you don’t have these things, beg your friends to borrow their husband for the day.
10- Loneliness can be crippling – being single this year, I have learned how to be alone. I have learned to put myself out there and to have hard, uncomfortable conversations. I have found out the hard way that it’s better to be alone than be with someone and feel even lonelier. I have learned that my friends are amazing but I don’t like to bother them and take them from their less lonely life. And holidays can be the loneliest time of year for someone like me.
Most of all, I have learned through this year that God is like a very good personal trainer. He is going to push you past your norm. He is going to challenge you in ways that you aren’t ready for. He is going to make you go past your level of comfort because he knows you can handle more , even if you doubt you can . You are going to say you can’t do it and he’s going to say oh yes you can. You won’t die from what he makes you endure. It may knock you down and you may be out of commission sometimes while your body and mind get used to the challenges he has placed upon you. But you WILL come out stronger, and ready for the next uphill battle . Just next time you can sprint up them rather than army crawl.